Turning 25-years-old was such a hard thing for me because I was constantly reminded that, based on society’s timeframe, I had still not accomplished enough. Whether I wanted to see it or not, there was always a post or picture that would pop up about someone else’s achievement and it would make me feel like I still had not reached a level of success. Don’t get me wrong I have accomplished many different things but it is so easy to compare instead of congratulating and being at peace with your course in life.
There was absolutely nothing wrong with where I was at the time. But comparison is truly an ugly thing and I fed into it. So instead of following the journey God had me on, I began focusing and striving for undesirable things that society said I should have at age.
The more and more that I focused on “status”, I got really down and I found myself depressed and lost. Questioning my purpose and I felt like a failure. I can admit I got upset with God a lot because I did not understand why things that I wanted did not happen for me the way it was happening for others. I felt that God abandoned me and I was left alone. I was trying to rush God instead of humbling myself.
God began to weigh heavily on my spirit that I was serving things not Him. I was putting Him on the back burner. God reminded me of who He is and showed me that He cares about my relationship with Him not what I can achieve at 25-years-old.
I had to make the choice, God or the world. I chose God. I had to move from the driver’s seat and surrender my life to God and be okay with sitting in the passenger’s seat. I can truthfully tell you that this was and still at times, is hard for me to do. See because God does everything on His perfect timing, so when I feel that things should be happening now, and God tells me, “No” or “Not yet”, and I have to be okay with it because God knows best.
I had to stop comparing my current situation to others because God has everybody on different paths and no one’s path is greater than another. I know that you may look at yours and then go on social media and say, “Well Jatava this person has more money and influence than I do”, but I would ask you, “Is where God has you a mistake? Of course not!”
See what I love so much about God is that He doesn’t care about where other people are compared to you! He has His eyes on you and He is shaping your life for you! God does not compare, sorry if you think otherwise but He does not. Society has drilled it in our minds that we have to look at what everybody is doing but God tells us to keep looking forward, follow Him only!
In today’s society, we get so wrapped into what everybody is doing and making sure we have the right filter and caption that we don’t even stop to smell the roses. It is crucial to not spend all of your days on social media but instead enjoy life, be adventurous, and above all spend time with God.
Every day I ask God to help me focus on His path for me and be content with where He has me. The biggest thing that also helped me was spending less time on social media. Renewing my mind has shifted the way I think about other’s accomplishments. I congratulate them instead of comparing them.
Wake up each morning knowing that you are right where God needs you and keep your eyes on Him. Trust His process. Have faith in Him. God will not let you done. Take time away from being on social media and enjoy your life. Social media will always be there but your mental health and happiness are far more important than a post or picture.