I am such a strong person that I never thought that losing Shy would affect me so very hard. It’s been four months and I am still going through the grieving process. There are many days that I feel happy and I can talk about her without feeling sad and then there are other days where I feel down and can’t help but cry because I miss her and I wish that I had one more day to hold her, kiss her, say her name, and be around her. She was seriously the best dog in the world. And she was family.
I want people to know that losing a pet and feeling sad about it is normal and you shouldn’t feel ashamed or embarrassed because of it. These 5 tips really are helping me to know that grieving Shy’s passing doesn’t have to be rushed, and every day I am able to heal and focus on all the wonderful memories that she and I shared with each other. Praying and getting comfort from God, above all, has given me the strength to know that she is in a better place with no pain. God cares about what we care about and He is able and willing to give us comfort and wrap His arms around us. Know that you don’t have to grieve alone, God is right with you.
Losing a pet is such a hard thing. They become family and you spend every day with them, loving them and building a strong relationship with them. The pain of their passing can become overwhelming and difficult to figure out how to express one’s emotions. It is important to know how to go about keeping their memory and healing yourself.
Allow yourself to grieve.
This is the most important. If you need to cry, scream, etc., take time to acknowledge and allow yourself to feel your emotions. Know that your healing is a process and it needs to organically heal. Don’t try to rush yourself to move on by suppressing your feelings; this doesn’t help you in the long run.
Don’t be ashamed of your pain.
You know more than anybody how much you loved and had an unbreakable bond with your pet. You should never feel bad for being hurt and in pain because of it. If other people do not understand, that is perfectly fine. Be around people who will help you and not tear you down.
Speak to someone.
Talking about your pet and how you feel, not only can make you feel better but you also are able to remember the amazing moments you had with your pet. Find someone that won’t judge you but will understand what you are going through and can give you meaningful advice.
Take care of yourself.
Grieving is a normal process and your emotions may fluctuate as you heal from your pain. If you see that your emotions and mental health aren’t improving and it is, in fact, becoming worse and you lose the desire to do things that you would have normally done previously; you should speak to your doctor who can evaluate your symptoms. Your mental health is important to keep up.
Remember and celebrate your pet.
Keep the memory of your pet alive. Print off photos and put them in a picture frame, keep a toy or blanket your pet had, turn your dog’s collar and ID tags into jewelry, have a funeral, help other’s who have lost pets, etc. Watch videos and look at pictures of your pet is completely okay and you are able to remember your pet and the good moments you both shared.